With self-awareness, you have an understanding of your strengths, weaknesses, feelings, thoughts, and values; as well as they they affect the people around you.But that’s just half of the story, as shared in this article. You will need to pair it with an important skill: self-management.
Self-management is a conscious choice to resist a preference or habit, and instead, demonstrate a more productive behavior. It’s a four-step process:
Be present. Pay attention to what is happening in this moment — not what was said 15 minutes ago or what will happen in your next meeting.
Be self-aware. What are you seeing, hearing, feeling, doing, saying, and considering?
Identify a range of behavioral choices. What do you want to do next? What are the possible consequences of each action? What feedback have you gotten that might inform your choices? What are some alternative choices you can make — even if they’re not what you want to do or what you usually do?
Intentionally choose behaviors that are believed to be the most productive. What behavior will generate the best outcome — even if it’s not the behavior that comes easiest to you?